I've mentioned before that my children are rather young. A common problem, and one that I've been dealing with, is for children, especially such young children, to simply tell you a condition, usually in whine or without pausing before repeating and allowing their voice to escalate.
Instead of just jumping to meet their demands (ie, in the morning I hear "I"m hungry" and then I would typically ask what they wanted to eat and then go get it), I've been making them stop and rephrase their words so there is a solution. (ie, "Mama, could you get me some yogurt, please?)
Even my two year old can rephrase his expressions into "solution based questions" with only the simple reminder of "Can you change that to a solution?" They no longer get their "needs" fulfilled simply by stating the condition.
I think this will be beneficial. It will teach them to think of the solution and be more polite. It will also help me to feel appreciated and not like my nerves are being grated with a cheese grater! After all, little children must, at some point, grow to be full functioning adults. This is one step to keep the peace and teach them a valuable lesson at the same time. And one step to becoming full functioning adults.
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